7 Habits of Highly Successful Teens
Habit 5
5. Seek First to Understand, and then to be Understood
Because most people don’t listen very well, one of the great
frustrations in life is that many don’t feel understood. This habit will ensure
your teen learns the most important communication skill there is: active
listening.
Why is this habit the key to communication? It’s because the
deepest need of the human heart is to be understood. Everyone wants to be
respected and valued for who they are—a unique, one-of-a-kind, never-to-be-cloned
individual. People won’t expose their soft middles unless they feel genuine
love and understanding. Once they feel it, however, they will tell you more than
you may want to hear. People don’t care how much you know until they know how much
you care.
Listen with your eyes, heart, and ears. 7 percent of communication
is contained in the words we use. The rest comes from body language (53
percent) and how we say words, or the tone and feeling reflected in our voice
(40 percent). Most people are eager to talk and had rather talk than listen. We
have one mouth and two ears. This means we should listen twice as much as we
talk. We actually learn more while listening rather than when we talk. Learn to
listen and to learn. Listen, really listen, for understanding
Seek first to understand then to be understood—LISTEN.
CHOOSE THE RIGHT!!!
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